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Dealing with Toxic Social Media

Written by lisadesherlia

This is a guest post by Lisa DeSherlia. Read more about how you can guest post on Christian Web Trends here.

Make America great again! Happy days are here again!
Not my President! No hate in my country!
She won the popular vote! Get rid of the Electoral College!
Never Trumpers are traitors and sniveling crybabies!
You guys lost! Get over it, you whiners!
What kind of country do we live in?
I’m done with you! You voted against all we stand for!
Good riddance, Killary!

Dealing with Toxic Social Media
Behold the Current Hatefest

The hatefest raged during the bitter primaries. Here’s one example. Throughout the primaries to today, users have flooded the page of a Governor who had opposed the President-Elect out of principle. They have trolled him with vile epithets. Mud-slinging kept up through the general election. Both sides of a vehemently divided nation continue the toxicity. I’ve never seen anything like it! My Facebook friends have been flooding my Timeline with hateful, rage-filled, inflammatory posts. Generally, I’ve ignored them. Yet as they intensified after the shocking election results, social media has become oppressive and depressing.

Dealing with Toxic Social Media
Winners and Losers

The election results left me reeling. I’m sure all of you have strong feelings about the election results one way or another. Are you a Donald Trump supporter? I’m safe assuming that you feel happily surprised, thrilled, and optimistic about your man’s victory. You see your country being taken back! What about the whiners and sore losers? Get over it! You lost! Are you a pro-life “NeverTrump” voter or a Hillary supporter? I know that you don’t feel good. You probably feel stunned, heartbroken, scared, even devastated. What kind of country do you live in? A nation where half the people voted hate, fraud, sexual assault, and immorality? Now you are being trashed as whiners and crybabies?

Dealing With Toxic Social Media
Social Media Users, Unite

This election has been the most divisive one in history. Social media has intensified it. Users can hide behind a computer screen and sound off about anything. Election season makes it worse. Right after the election, I found myself un-friending a person who posted a hurtful comment under my post. Also, I blocked the posts of some Facebook friends from showing up in my Timeline. I simply ignore the rest. Meanwhile, the hatefest rages on. On both sides. Out of my experience, I believe that we can restore civility to our discussion and restore grace to politics.

Dealing with Toxic Social Media
Helpful Ideas

Here are ideas for restored class and civility. Remember that those who voted differently from you did so out of conviction. Like you, they faced tough electoral decisions. If your side won, don’t gloat. Please don’t write off the losing supporters as being crybabies. Instead, know that they voted out of conviction, as you did. Be kind to them. They’re hurting now. One of those whose candidate lost? Who fought to “stop Trump?” Give yourselves time to grieve. Yours was a long a hard fight, especially if you fought to “stop Trump.” Hillary Clinton did win the popular vote by a whopping 2 million. But she lost under our system because of the Electoral College. At some point, you need to accept the painful loss. It hurts to lose, especially when your candidate wins the popular vote but loses the Electoral College. It’s tough but we need to accept that we’ll have four years under a President we didn’t want.

Above all, we Christians need to remember that we dare not pin our hopes on any politician. Place hope in Jesus alone! He remains in charge no matter who wins the White House. Are you all in?

Photo by Sean MacEntee and licensed under CC-BY 2.0.

About the author


Lisa DeSherlia is a follower of Jesus, a wife, a mom and a blogger. She advocates for any of those who are voiceless and marginalized: the unborn, those with disabilities, those facing severe religious persecution, and others voiceless people groups or individuals. She has a fairly new self-hosted website call as well as a complementary Facebook page which she has set up as a ministry to the public.
She maintains a site that is specific to preventing an ending abortion. It is called NeverAbortion and she has a Facebook page named after the site: NeverAbortion.


  • Hi Lisa, thanks for writing today’s post. One thing I try to keep in mind when it comes to social media posts about politics is that Jesus is our savior and the government never will be. So, if a candidate I disagree with gets elected, it’s not the end of the world, and if a candidate I like gets elected it’s nothing compared to the day Jesus returns. I also try to keep in mind that almost nobody ever changes their mind based on an argument made in social media. It’s a waste of time or worse. There’s value in fostering calm, thoughtful discuss, but not in proving your point or insulting people who disagree with you.

  • Hi lisadesherlia, 2017 is coming soon, will you update any article of social media? I am very interest in this kind of articles 🙂 Thanks 🙂

  • Hi lisadesherlia, today I heard from one of my friend, he talked about that there are a kind of social marketing platform which could find target visitors not as Facebook or twitter (popular platform), do you know these kind of platforms? 🙂

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