Prayer for Standers ...Marriage Restoration in Christ
Father, we pray in the name of Jesus Christ Who was crucified, who was buried, who rose again and who is alive at this very moment.
Thank you that I can give thanks in EVERYTHING for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning me. I Thess. 5:18.
Praise You, Jesus, that I am a prisoner of hope (Zechariah 9:12), not a prisoner of my circumstances. "Turn you to the strong hold, ye prisoners of hope: even to day do I declare that I will render double unto thee."
Thank you that God's Word says in Song of Solomon 8:6 that love is as strong as death. Nothing but death will break the marriage covenant I made with my mate.
Praise You that since I know my marriage is healed, I will disregard the symptoms and walk beyond my sight...faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. (Heb. 11:1)
Because I do choose my own emotions, I praise You, Father that I choose hope, not hopelessness. I choose victory, not defeat. I choose life not death. I choose love not fear; joy not despair.
Holy Spirit, I thank You that from glory to glory You're changing me. II Cor. 3:18.
Father, I ask You to place a wall of fire around my mate and place Your glory within his midst. Zechariah 2:5. Thank You!
Thank you Lord for the hedge of protection that Job prayed around him, his house and all that he had on every side (Job 1:10). With this hedge, Satan was not able to take anyone in Job's family captive at his will. Thank you that this "hedge" around an unfaithful partner causes his/her lovers to lose interest.
I base my prayer on Your Word (Matthew 19:6)which commands that what You have joined together, let not man put asunder. (Hosea 2:5-7). Thank You Satan is not in control, he even has to get clearance from God for whatever he does, and his actions become God's dealings in love. Father, You are looking for an intercessor to make up a "hedge" of protection...that You should not destroy. (Ez. 22:30). Thank You that this hedge can cause troubles that will prompt a return and as Hosea's wife said..."I will go and return to my first husband; for then was it better with me than now." (Hosea 2:6-16)
We know that the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds. (II Cor. 10:4-5). As we bind Satan and build a hedge of thorns of protection around Mark, we proceed to "cast down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and we bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ." (II Cor. 10:5)
Thank You, Jesus that You are building Your resources in me to be able to receive Your blessings.
Thank You that whatever finances You send to me, it is enough!!!! Thank You that with Your help, I won't say it, I'll pray it. Thank you that in covenant relationship, I give You everything that I have, I don't withhold anything that is me - in return as my covenant Brother, You promise to supply all my need according to Your riches in glory by Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:19).
Praise You, Jesus that my mate HEARS You, and according to Psalms 83:16, I pray You will "cover their face with shame, so that they will seek Your name."
Thank You that I KNOW that someday I will praise Your Name that you allowed me to go through this.
Father, line me up with Your Word. I plead the blood of Jesus that cleanses from all sin, sorrow, and sickness on my entire household.
I know that deception is the fruit of leaning on my own understanding, so praise and thank You Lord, I can stand on Proverbs 3:5,6. (Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.) Since the Lord is
directing my path, why do I wonder what happens along the way?
Habakkuk 2:3 says that" the vision awaits an appointed time...at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry." Thank You Jesus that You are never late.
Genesis 50:20 tells about the things that were meant for harm to Joseph, but because he chose to forgive and walk in obedience , You God were able to turn that thing around to be used for good. I thank You Father, that You shape every circumstance for my good.....and I know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to Your purpose. (Romans 8:28)
GOD ALWAYS KEEPS HIS WORD!
Dear Father in Heaven, I come before You with great thanks in my heart. Thank you oh Father for the many blessings You give us each day and for all the blessings to come. I thank You Father, for You are “our refugee and comfort, an ever present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea.” We thank you Lord for being our “rock, our fortress,” Lord God you ARE our rock, you are “our shield and the horne of our salvation, our stronghold.”
1. Thank you Father, for You are our provider, You see that EVERY need we have is met. Father because Your son Jesus spoke that we should “take no thought for our lives, what we shall eat, what we shall drink, nor yet our bodies, what we shall put on,” we know Father in Heaven you will provide for us in ALL ways.
Father we also thank you for the Full Armor of God. We thank you for your protection over evil and the traps the evil one set before Your children. Oh Lord we are thankful for the Spiritual Armor You have provided and each day we put on ourselves the Girdle of Truth, the Breastplate of Righteousness, the Sandals of Peace and the Helmet of Salvation. We lift up for our prodigals and ourselves; the Shield of Faith against the fiery darts of the enemy and his manipulations. We take in hand, for our spouse and ourselves the Sword of the Spirit, the Holy Undeniable Word of God. We choose to use Your Word against ALL forms of evil in our marriages, in our family's lives, in our own lives and in our spouse's life. We refuse this day to believe in our feelings as we put on the Armor on us to live in complete dependence on You. Father, we recognize this battle, this war is spiritual and we totally rely on Your battle plan and the Armor You have provided.
Father, we pray for a hedge of protection surrounding ourselves and surrounding our spouses, as you did for Job “whereby God made an hedge about him and about his house and all that he had on either side.” Oh Father may our spouses feel the Thorny Hedge as you provided in Hosea, so first and foremost our spouses are so uncomfortable in their sin they shall run to your open arms Father and seek you all the days of their lives. Father we pray their lovers lose interest and satan can NO longer take our spouses captive. We pray Father, our spouses see to have a personal relationship with You as we are doing; for Father, our relationship is so precious to us.
Father, remind our spouse unceasingly of the love they knew with us; and the joy we shared together. Remind them in song, in TV, in food, drink, locations, little signs and wonders, in their thoughts and dreams. Father, urge our spouses to speak to us with their hearts as we do them.
Father in Jesus name, place those people in their path to encourage our spouses, remind our spouses and show our spouses YOUR Will. Place people in their midst who are believer's in Your Word and Your Will. Let no one utter to our spouses anything that is not of You or Your Will. Father, I pray You soften our spouses heart to their marriages. Had You not softened Saul’s heart, would Paul have become such a faithful servant?
Father I pray, I pray our spouses fall to their knees before You and ask forgiveness and truly ache for the salvation our Lord Jesus Christ died on the cross for. I pray each of our spouses accept the gift of salvation and the peace that comes with it. I pray our spouses forgive us for any wrongs we had committed against them, and they forgive themselves as you Father have forgiven them.
I also pray our family's forgive our prodigals for our prodigals will soon be home as You Father have commanded.
In the Name of Jesus Christ we Bind satan and his power.
In the Name of Jesus, divorce is Not welcome in our home. Divorce you ARE cursed as the evil one that invented you. In the name of Jesus Christ, satan REMOVE yourself from our lives, out of the lives of our spouses, out of the life of the other person's that may be involved with OUR mates.
In the Name of Jesus, remove yourself satan and go into the depths of the sea. Satan you are NOT welcome here or in our lives our in our spouses lives, for you ARE a LIAR and a Deceiver and we REBUKE you and ALL your manipulations in Jesus Christ’s Holy name. Satan you KNOW you ARE DEFEATED, for our miracle worker Jesus Christ, son of our Lord has command over you and through Jesus Christ we have command over you and in Jesus Name we command you GONE! Gone from our lives, NOW – this instant! In Jesus Mighty Powerful Name!
I pray Heavenly Father, You show us Your will for our path for Your good purpose; and Father continue to teach us those things You want us to know. We pray Father to be Your good children doing Your good works and not our own.
Father, we trust in You with our entire heart and soul and we lean not on our own understanding and in ALL ways we acknowledge and we are assured You shall make our paths straight.
We thank You Father the complete restoration of our own lives, the lives of our spouses and the complete restoration of our marriages. We stand in awe of Your promises and Your Word. We are rejoicing the great miracles You have already done for us and our spouses because You love us so unconditionally and we sing Your praises for these great things we are testifying to Your people, for Your Will, be done. By the power of the blood of Jesus, we ask this in His Blessed Name. Amen & Amen!!!
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~ One Day Closer To Our Marriage Restoration ~
Interview with author, Audrey Lamb
One of the toughest things we struggle with as a society is estranged
and broken marriages resulting in familes that are hurting and
seeking relief. This issue, we have Audrey Lamb, founder of Abundant
Lives Ministry and author of "God's Blueprint for a Healed and
Restored Marriage." We asked Audrey a few questions about marriage
restoration, her new book and some of her other projects. Join us for
inspiring insights into the power of our God in restoring and healing
Q. Tell me a little bit about how you came to write "God's Blueprint
for a Healed and Restored Marriage?"
Actually, I have always wanted to write a book about marriage. It
never occurred to me in a million years that I would write one
concerning the healing and restoration of broken and even dead
Marriage and family have always been very close to my heart, even as
a child. I believe that the family is the basic structure necessary
for a healthy and stable society. When families are falling apart
(even in the church) it is an indication of the health (or lack
thereof) of our society and nation. We can't expect to have secure
children, a thriving neighborhood and/or a strong country when family
after family is breaking apart.
I wrote the book because I can remember so vividly the pain and
anguish I suffered as my own family began to fall apart. I didn't
think I could survive. But I did survive and I have even seen the
Lord restore my relationship to my husband and break down walls
between us that looked impossible to overcome. I heard it all from
him-I don't love you, I don't respect you, I never loved you…I am no
longer attracted to you blah…blah…blah. This same man now looks at me
with the eyes of love he had for me when we were dating. He even
serenaded me recently for my birthday. If someone were to tell me
that would ever happen in the midst of our crises, I would have told
them they were crazy. Boy is the enemy a liar. I had no reason to
believe God could heal my heart or family- because it looked so
horrible. I don't like to share a lot of the details because I don't
like to put my husband in a bad light. I learned early on that it
really does take two to destroy a marriage. I have also learned it
takes two to heal a marriage (the one who believes, and God). I wrote
to encourage others not to give up on their marriages;
to tell spouse's: don't believe the lies of the enemy and
circumstances that you see today;
and know that no matter how much pain you are in, God will heal your
even if a divorce occurs (as in my case) it does not hinder God from
restoration in any way;
to teach them how to avoid certain things that are particularly
detrimental where restoration is concerned and to walk by faith.
It is not a formula…it is an invitation to be led by God every step
of the way.
Q. Who is the typical person who can benefit from your book? Is it
just people with troubled marriages or what about someone who feels
fairly secure in his/her marriage relationship?
To be honest with you, I think everyone can benefit from the book.
The reason I say that is, if I had known some of the things I wrote
about before I experienced them, I think I could have avoided the
situation entirely. There are many things that I did which were huge
mistakes. I didn't know it at the time. I didn't even think that my
marriage was in jeopardy. I think there are many people today who are
feeling very secure in their marriages who are going to be shocked
when the storm comes to test their foundation. Remember, both my
husband and I were saved when we got married. We were the "least
likely" couple anyone would ever think would divorce. We had four
beautiful children, a thriving business, a beautiful home and we
dated four years before we got married (we were childhood
sweethearts). But the enemy was at work. The enemy can be very
patient when it comes to causing little cracks that go hardly
noticed. I talk to women all the time, who I can see are on the verge
of trouble and they don't even know it. I can tell by the things they
say and the attitude of their hearts that trouble may be brewing.
Everything is in the word to teach you how to have a successful
marriage, but somehow it is so easy to miss. Also, I think that
world's view of marriage and relationships has crept into Christian
marriages. Oftentimes, the things that we think create a good
marriage are not even in the bible-- they come from the world. It
works for a while but if a strong wind comes the world's way of
thinking will not help you in the least bit.
However, having said all of that, the book is addressed to women
(because I am a woman and thought I could relate to the things that
most women feel when experiencing a marital crisis); and it is
particularly speaking to women whose marriages have broken down
completely due to estrangement within the house (in the same house
with no real relationship), separation or divorce.
Q. Why do you feel that God wants marriages to work?
Paul said that marriage was a picture of Christ's relationship to the
church. That is the foremost reason I believe that God wants
marriages restored. When people get divorced it speaks of
unforgiveness, hardness of heart and love that is based on
conditions. The love that God wants to see depicted in marriages is
one where love is "unconditional". It is a love that is not based on
how others treat us. It is a love that loves the spouse with the love
God pours into your heart. That is the love that Christ loves His
bride with. It is the love that says, I will never leave you or
forsake you. His loves says, "My love for you is not contingent upon
how you treat me". Think of how often we have not lived up to our
responsibilities as Christians. I thank God that Jesus doesn't just
give up on us. To the contrary, the bible teaches us that "Jesus ever
liveth to make intercession for us". I always say, a wife should be
her husband's greatest intercessor and vice-versa. That is what Jesus
is to us. He looks at us in our mess—just like a spouse has to do,
and He prays, and prays and prays and prays. That is the love God
wants the world to see.
The other reason, is for the generations. Read Malachi 2. Divorce is
a violent act and it is very painful for everyone involved. Children
have an even harder time with it than most people are willing to
admit. When a divorce occurs, children have to learn to trust and
have faith even in God all over again. Divorce destroys faith and
even causes children to wonder if He really does exist and care about
them. They get a perverted view of "fatherly love". In other words,
they think… if one of the parents I can see, know and love can just
abandon me, why should I trust a God I cannot see. Parents are God's
representatives to children. We give them their view of God.
Q. Why do you think so many marriages end in divorce these days?
Believe me, this is something I have pondered and prayed about for
quite some time. I believe the answer can be found in 2 Timothy where
it talks about how terrible times would be in the last days. It says
in the last days, perilous times would come and men would be lovers
of pleasure more than lovers of God. It says that men's hearts would
grow cold and wax hard. It further says that they would be abusers,
unfaithful and blasphemous. If you have counseled as many people as I
have, you learn that this scripture is accurate. If you knew the
things that people in marriages do and are doing to each other, it
would make your hair stand on end.
So in order to make a long story short I believe there are several
Many do not know what real love is which can be found in, 1 Cor 13
(that is a far cry from the selfish love most people expect in their
marriages. They think that love is a feeling rather than a commitment
and a choice.
People are expecting from each other in a marriage what only God can
Couples rely on themselves rather than on God
There is an enemy who comes to rob, kill and destroy, who is being
We do foolish things contrary to God's word and give the enemy an
open door into our lives
This is a hard one to admit, but many women have forgotten what the
bible says about submitting to and respecting their husbands;
although, many men are not giving their wives a reason to respect
them (although this is not an excuse which we learn from 1 Peter 3)
this always causes disorder in the home and leads to confusion
The church has adopted the world's view of what to do when a crisis
hits a marriage. The world's methods hardly ever work because this is
more than a relational battle, it is a spiritual one.
Last but not least, PRIDE. Pride is the single greatest reason I
believe people divorce. Pride is at work somewhere in BOTH hearts. It
is hard to detect because pride leads to "blindness of heart". You
just can't see yourself and judge your heart and attitude correctly.
Everything becomes the other person's fault. To make matters worse,
often those around us (parents, well meaning friends) help us to
foster the pride that is within us causing the death of the marriage.
Pride can lead a person to willfully disobey what God commands in His
word. It causes you lose the fear of God. Pride always leads to the
Q. Tell me a little bit about My Beautiful Ones - your line of
bath/body products and why you decided to start that?
Very often when a women experiences rejection of any kind, but
especially that of a husband, it causes you to "second guess" a lot
of things, even your womanhood. You question your value, whether you
are lovable, whether you have committed some crime that caused you to
deserve the treatment you are receiving…. "feeling beautiful" is the
least of your experiences.
It was during this season in my life that the Lord began to cause me
to distinguish the fact that my beauty and value were based
completely on how God saw me not others. I learned to stop seeing
myself through the eyes of others, and see how God saw me. He did
this for me. He spoke beautiful things to my heart to let me know
that He loved me and that I was very valuable. At times, He would
speak to me through His word, sometimes through others and even
directly to my heart….you know, that still small quiet voice. He
reached my heart and He used whatever means necessary. He began to
show me that the way I treated my body, through eating and caring for
it, was reflective of how I felt about myself and whether or not I
treasured who He created me to be. In addition, He spoke to me out of
books like Esther to show me how preparation of my physical body
correlated to me preparing my "spiritual body" for the return of the
King of Kings. He lead me to exercise discipline in these outward
areas so that I could see what was happening spiritually in my
relationship to the Lord. Caring for our bodies is a lot like prayer,
we know we have to do it but what we feel is a lack of time causes us
to neglect something important to our well being. He showed me that
if I neglected my body, I was neglecting my soul and spirit as well.
Last, but not least, He was keeping me prepared for the days when I
would see my husband and the day that He would eventually come home.
See… if you are waiting for a spouse to return, (just like with our
Savior), you do not know the day or the hour. You just have to be
prepared. It was causing me to put my faith into action. By the way,
it paid off. Men are very visual and even though I do not believe the
Lord wants us to think that physical attractiveness alone will keep a
husband, he wants us to be wise and "keep our selves" because it
reflects His beauty in us as well.
"My Beautiful Ones", is a message from the Father, to His daughters.
It is a message to women who are single, married, widowed or
divorced. He wants each one to know that it is His pleasure to love,
protect, defend and provide for you. I have several books, a magazine
and even a workshop which are soon to be released to carry this
message from the Father. That particular ministry is based on the
scripture in Isaiah 62:3,4 "You shall also be so beautiful and
prosperous as to be thought of as a crown of glory and honor in the
hand of the Lord, and a royal diadem [exceedingly beautiful] in the
hand of your God] You shall no more be termed Forsaken, nor shall
your land be called Desolate any more. But you shall be called
Hephzibah [My delight is in her], and your land shall be called
Beulah [married]; for the Lord delights in you, and your land shall
be married [owned and protected by the Lord].
Q. If you could get one message across to the people you reach what
would it be?
My message is . . . (and I'm sure I sound like a broken record by
now) We serve a GREAT BIG GOD!! Oftentimes, we fail to receive God's
very best because we believe the lies of the enemy. I want people to
know that regardless of how impossible "looking" or painful their
situation is, faith in God will bring healing and restoration. I owe
that to God. I am reminded of a couple of weeks ago at a basketball
game with my son. They were losing. It looked like all hope was lost.
The parents in the audience had stopped cheering them on. I turned to
my husband and said, it's not too late, they can still turn this game
around. He said, Audrey I don't believe they can, if it was just
about their playing that would be one thing, but the refs are making
terrible calls against them. I couldn't receive that report. I turned
around and began to cheer the team on all by myself. I felt if they
thought we (the parents) were giving up, they would give up as well,
and just roll over and accept defeat. Well, they won the game. It was
a miracle. Things turned in their favor. That is a lot like what I do
regarding marriage restoration. I am a "cheerleader". I can't fix
marriages, but I am sold out to the One who can and I just keep
yelling as loud as I can, "Don't give up" and "Don't believe what you
see", "God can and will do it for you, press on".
The way I look at it is that any god who could deliver me and my
family from the trauma and devastation that we experienced really is
the ONE TRUE GOD and my heart aches for others to believe Him for the
impossible. I believe I feel the heart of the Father on this matter.
He wants us to believe Him. His word says that faith pleases Him. I
often hear people say, "I wonder if God wants me to believe for this
marriage"? I assure you, YES, YES He does. Without faith it is
impossible to please Him. Faith is the substance of things hoped for,
the evidence of things not seen. So if you don't have any evidence in
your life that God can heal your marriage, you are the perfect
candidate. He is looking for you, in particular. He wants everyone
around you to see His power so that they will desire a relationship
with Him also. Remember, Abraham "hoped against hope"- that means he
had absolutely no reason to believe that he would receive his promise-
--but God delivered mightily!!!!!!!
Q. Anything else you'd like to add?
Yes, the very foundation of this ministry is to lead people to a
closer relationship with the Lord. A personal and vital relationship
that lives, breathes and moves in Him. There are no surprises to God.
He knows everything that we will ever experience. I believe the whole
reason He allows these challenges to come is so that we will learn to
depend on Him for everything. He wants us to cling to Him for our
very lives. Often, as human beings we don't do this when everything
is going our way. God doesn't necessarily create the crisis but He
allows it for our greater good. He wants that closeness and intimacy
that will be produced when trust Him with your very life. I can say
that God is wonderful. He is worthy to be praised. He is worthy of
all our devotion. He will not let you down. Believe God for the
And now these three remain: faith,
hope, and love. But the greatest of
these is love.
(1 Corinthians 13:13)